Grief

A Lovely Experience

6 September, 2026

Picture courtesy of Sirly Jung

A Lovely Experience:  Many of our readers will know that when we write about death or fear of death it is to help those who struggle with it.  Our writings are there to give a different perspective to aid those in transition or those who are left behind. Today is no different, only to reaffirm we can never be separated from those that we love.

First off, some spiritual safety.  If we take any type of drugs, hallucinogenic or plant medicine with the intention of leaving our bodies we do this without the protection of our spirits. Forcing our spirits to leave our bodies is a dangerous practice.  We see many who on their travels bring home some very nasty presents. Some may deal with the consequences for their remaining life, especially where the mind cannot dock with their consciousness correctly ever again.

However, if the spirit within decides to leave of its own free will and not with any driven intention from the mind our protections are in place.  This is the same for those who are given medications for operations or illness.  This is where we will begin.

At the start of the year, I had a scheduled surgery and was not worried or anxious but the sooner it was done the better. I had great confidence in the surgeon and was just happy to get the operation done, in fact there was a strange contentment around me.  As quick as I was put to sleep, I was waking up.

The nurse asked me, “how do you feel”, I simply responded, “I have been somewhere really nice, I was walking in the snow with someone”.  She responded, “wow, the man in the next bed has just said the same thing”. Coincidence or not, wherever I had been, id been there a long time, but I could only remember the last few moments.  It was bright and peaceful.  This is only the beginning.

Before we move forward, we will need to explain a couple of things.  There will be those who say it’s just the drugs causing hallucinations etc.  However, these medications loosen the spirit from the physical body.  What many will see is the saturation from the spirit world or the etheric at a minimum, either way we will see differently.  (The etheric is the first spiritual realm which connects us to higher spiritual planes and connects to the physical plane.  Everything we see and touch in this world has an etheric double).

We are not writing to try and convince anyone; it can be taken or left.  We will revert to the above section on spiritual safety and those who take drugs to gain “Temporary psychic abilities”.  We will at some stage write more on this, however we have many conversations on this topic with those that visit us on our healing days.

As I was being taken down to theatre and while I was on the ward, I had put my protections in place and removed negative energies this way I would be in a sterile spiritual environment as much as possible.  While these drugs are in our system, we can be aware of the light and the dark as well as fears and worries of previous and current occupants.

This being said, I was taken back to my room and given some water and told by the nurses they would be back in 45 mins or so. Yes, having drugs changes our perception, however understanding psychic abilities and phenomena gives understanding to so called “it’s just the drugs”.

As I lay there quite content that the operation was done, I felt an extreme sadness coming on, surrounding me.  I have had this many times before and I know what is happening.  It is not mine as I will explain.  Sometimes especially during periods of grief when a departed spirit comes close to a loved one it feels like extreme sadness.  This is now where it is possible to get ourselves into trouble.

Again, spiritual safety, even when these feelings come, they must always be challenged.  In the past I have had the same feelings of sadness, but something was off, it is what we call the “knowing”, Gnosis. In that moment we use our protection prayers and removal prayers and if it is not from the right source it is taken.

The Darkside will always play on our pain and suffering.

If I assign a name to it or person there is a good chance the other side will come in and try and give me a synthetic and dangerous experience to steer me astray. They can pretend to be our loved ones, and this opens a whole host of problems when we are already suffering.  This is why spiritual development over psychic is so important once we have learnt the basics and have a solid foundation.

Contrasting to the above when we have the relationship with our own spirits, we can have “the knowing”, it is not an external psychic feeling but a true inner spiritual experience.  That feeling of Sadness becomes love and happiness.  Going back to our opening paragraph here is the lovely experience.

It is just touching 6 years since my mum passed over but if anyone asks me when I saw her last, I will say January, this year.  Yes, I know it sounds mental.  Doing the work we do, it is normal but also, I am aware how privileged and lucky I have been.  There is not one person on this planet that would or could change my mind on this experience.

Laying there in the hospital room with the sadness, sorrow trying to make me burst out crying.  I said my protections and in that moment the knowing came, the feeling was familiar, it was Love, it was not the other side trying to mislead me.

It was MY mum.

In that moment, the knowing confirmed it and I began to smile.  The realisation came to mind that while I had been on the operating table my mum had been with me all the time, just as she did all those years ago as a small boy.  Along with the understanding came waves of love and such a big smile, a happiness.

I never grieved for my mum as I have always known she is not gone.  I could not get sad  because we have never been separated.  I had seen her in a couple of dreams, but this feeling was love.  Now this is the strangest part.  In that love, the only way I can describe it, was like a hoover sucking out the grief I had held.  I did not know I carried any, but it was there, being sucked out and replace by love.

Once that grief was sucked out, I understood the sadness was the feeling of my mum having to leave me. All I could think about as she headed off back home to spirit was,

I’ve been with my mum, IVE BEEN WITH MY MUM!

I had such a smile on my face and my thoughts over and over again, I’ve been with my mum. My fear of death disappeared a long time ago, missing her, I can’t, it is not possible anymore.  Grateful, humble, honoured and lucky come to mind.  These experiences have to be shared, I did not expect, I did not ask, there was absolutely no intention to try and communicate with spirit.  There were no words, only the knowing.

If we try and seek a spirit, we will find one, there is a very good chance it won’t be who we think it is.

If it can happen to me it can happen to another, and to tell those in so much pain that they will see there loved ones again, they are close and above all do not fear.  And yet, there is more.

After some food and drink I shared the experience on our family chat.  Yes, I get all the jokes from my family, especially the “come in Derek”, relating to a UK tv psychic. However, my brother sent me a message and video the following day.  The message started with “I am not messing”, he said the picture of mum on the wall is vibrating, the video he sent, I could see and hear.

None of the other pictures were moving or making noises, there was no builders or workmen in the street.  Everything else was still.  I smiled and said it’s a confirmation but take it how you will. Having a family of sceptics makes me chuckle.

For those who are missing a loved one, friends or family members they are closer than we realise.  However, there are always those who will take advantage of our pain and suffering, our grief.  These spirits know the ins and outs, but not all will be truth.

Instead of looking outward, instead of seeking psychics to communicate. We turn our gaze inward to our own spirits, the light within.  We can develop and build our own “knowing” we can be at peace.  We can have that smile on our face and the patience where no words are needed, and if and when our loved ones do pop in, we will have the discernment and cannot be deceived.

For those whose grief is debilitating come and see us, allow us to share our light that you may find your own and in that light, find your peace, find contentment that only the light can give.

Seek unity with your own spirit

The doorway to the Kingdom.

 

Our next Day of Healing will be on Saturday the 17th of October, 10.00am to 1.30pm at Crosby Library.

For any that are struggling, suffering, Spiritually or Physically lost or have questions, come in and see us.  It is always worth reaching out!

Those who are grieving or on the golden mile with a loved one returning to spirit. Any that have had ill effects from yoga who wish to understand more.

If you feel forgotten, overlooked or put others in front of yourself, then please come along, let us put your first.

All treatment and help on the day is free of charge, we do accept donations if offered.  Any donations are used to fund our days and provide refreshments for all our visitors.

Pop in for a cuppa and piece of home made cake and see what we are about.

You will be able to find more information on the links below or: lifebalanceliverpool.  If you have any questions or want to know more get in touch.  Below are some links for those who are lost and to support the article and what we do.

Grief

Healing Days

Bottom of the Pot

The Crystal Seed

A Call For Help

What is self-healing

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